Is choosing not to have children an acceptable choice for Catholic couples?

The short answer is no. According to Father Thomas Urban, who is a judge at the Metropolitan Tribunal in Detroit, Michigan. “The first thing Catholics need to understand, and come to grips with,” he explained, “is that most people, even among Catholics, have a secular understanding of marriage from Hollywood and magazines.”

“The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord ” (CCC No. 1601).

Marriage and the parenthood it often involves is a vocation, a “call from God. The vocation of married people is to “love one another and transmit life.” — Pope Francis.

Our world assaults motherhood and children. The world speaks of pregnancy as a disease and a hormonally manipulated and malfunctioning reproductive system as a healthy one. Children are burdens and motherhood is a hassle you try to fit around your important work, the world says. Christian families affirm the value of motherhood and children. The Christian ethic that proclaims the sanctity of all human life, from conception till natural death, doesn’t stop at mere existence but proceeds to sanctity. Christian married couples welcome children and refuse contraception and abortion, but they don’t stop there. Christian parents devote their lives to the good of their children, attending to their physical, spiritual, emotional, and psychological needs. Christian parents love. They don’t merely want their children to survive to adulthood and hold a job but to grow to adulthood as whole persons willing to give their whole selves when they find their vocation. Christian parents who are dedicated to their children work to fill the world with loving adults and, eventually, to fill heaven with saints.

Christian parents must show the world that children are gifts, not burdens.


1. The Mission of Marriage [published by: Mary C. Tillotson] — Catholic Exchange

2. Can Catholic couples choose childlessness? [published by: Patti Maguire Armstrong on oct. 11, 2017 ] — Our Sunday Visitor

3. Marriage and Parenthood: Vocation, Communion, and Mission— For Your Marriage


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